What Is Erotic Spanking
Erotic spanking is a relatively common part of many relationships. For example, spanking is often used to satisfy someone who likes to be controlled, or as an erotic technique to make the skin more sensitive and susceptible to stimulation.
You do not necessarily need the same pain to enjoy some flaps over the buttocks. The good feelings can come from being close to your partner, the experience of being submissive, or simply because the skin becomes extra sensitive when stimulating blood flow.
Spanking is often used to satisfy someone who likes to be controlled, or as an erotic technique to make the skin more sensitive and susceptible to stimulation. It’s a common fetish, and communities such as Fetlife openly practice and discuss it.
Overview Of Sex Toys For Spanking
The easiest way to explore spanking is with the good old palm, but there are many exciting tools and accessories for increased variety and more intense experiences. Here you will find a small overview of some of the most popular spanking products:
Paddles have a wide surface for a more diffuse effect that can be easier to handle for beginners. Paddles also provide the really delicious whip sound that seems both stimulating and fun when you enjoy yourself together.
The surface determines how hard a paddle will be, and a leather paddle will feel more intense than a soft satin paddle. Some paddles have two different surfaces, one on each side, so you yourself determine the effect on the spanking.
Whips have one long tail, often with a thicker tip for extra effect when it hits the skin. It can be difficult to hit exactly where you are aiming, and you get a lot of power behind each stroke, so whips are generally not recommended for beginners.
Floggers have more and thinner tails for a softer effect. At the same time, one is stimulated over a larger area.
This is one of the most popular type of bonding equipment for spanking. You can easily browse many fine floggers that look and feel wonderful through online shopping.
A horsewhip gives you the opportunity to provide a good spank or stroke, as well as pamper your partner.
The hard and flexible rod gives you more control over where you hit, while the soft leather tip can provide both intense pleasure and soft caresses for how kind you want to be. There are many good and affordable horsewhips in the market.
How To Have A Sexual Spanking Session
Would you like to try to be spanked, but are unsure of what you need? You can purchase gift kits from some online stores and you’ll get everything you need plus a little more.
Some offer packages including a flogger, paddle or poultry, in addition to soft bands and masks for light bondage play. It won’t be sweeter than that!
The classic position where your partner lies down on his or her stomach above your knees is both intimate and erotic, but it is not the only way to enjoy spanking.
Look around at home, maybe you have a comfortable couch you can lean on, or how about lying on your stomach in bed while your partner caresses your butt and thighs?
There are also different types of bondage equipment that let you easily position yourself or your partner for easier access and increased comfort. A bed set with ribbons that go under the mattress allows you to be tied on the bed with the butt up, while a positioning set binds the legs and arms while lifting the buttocks for better access.
The classic position where your partner lies down on his or her stomach above your knees is both intimate and erotic, but it is not the only way to enjoy spanking.
Good Spanking Techniques
Start with soft flaps against the buttocks to warm the skin. If you have not tried spanking before, it is easy to assume that you can tolerate more than you can actually do, so it is best to start carefully and increase the intensity slowly until you feel it is hard enough.
A useful tool here is the so-called stop word; a word or phrase you have agreed on beforehand. A good starting point is “red”, “yellow”, and “green”. Green means that you like what is happening and want your partner to continue. Yellow means that the partner should calm down a bit, or take a break to get you composed.
Red means full stop right away. Be sure to check back at regular intervals to make sure your partner likes what is happening or if he or she wants you to do something different.
Also think about where you hit with the tips – it does not feel good to get struck on areas with low fat tissue or where bones lie right under the skin. The best zones are the buttocks and the upper part of the thighs.
Of course, it is possible to enjoy spanks against other areas, for example over the vulva or straight across the vagina, but here you may want to use softer strokes. A little trick that may seem extra teasing to both of you is to use the penis as a mini-paddle and give her some spanks against the vagina – with the consent of course!
Listed below are some tips to remember before engaging in sexual spanking:
Start gently with light flaps to heat the skin.
Spanking over clothes, underwear, or other thin layers of fabric can be nice for those who have extra sensitive skin to curb the intensity of the strokes.
Varying how hard you strike and which areas you hit. If you focus on one area all the time the party will get hurt faster and the good effect of the spanking will be gone. Try your hand at different areas of the body. Many people like to be spanked on the butt, but perhaps your partner likes to be spanked on other places, too.
Use a wide paddle to spread the effect over a larger area.
Lather a cooling ointment like Aloe Vera over the skin after you have been spanked to relieve red and tender skin.
After The Session
Remember to take good care of each other afterwards.
Good aftercare is especially important after spanking since one party has the role of the submissive and will have a greater need for coziness and follow-up of their partner.
Do you like to be spanked? It can be fun to change roles at another time. You might just discover a new fantasy that you want to explore.
